Making People Feel Unworthy

Bismillah walhamdulillah

Would you be surprised to hear that there is such a thing as going to an extreme with Time Management? Well, there is.

One of the symptoms of it is that you make the people in your life feel unworthy of your time. They shy away from contacting you with legitimate concerns out of fear that they might be wasting your time.

You should be stingy with your time, but that “stinginess” means that you use it only to benefit yourself in this world and the aakhira (that includes benefiting others when you can). It doesn’t mean that you shun the masses entirely. You have to ask yourself, why are you trying to manage your time? For many, it is so that you can stop wasting time on useless matters, and spend your life in the service of Allah swt. One of the ways to serve Allah swt is that when your brother or sister is in a real need, and he or she contacts you for help, you put down what you are currently doing, and you help that person with whatever is in your capacity.

It is the time management that allows you to do this, because you have room for lee-way in your schedule when you cherish every minute. On the other hand, if you live life running from deadline to deadline, then when you are hit with something unexpected, things will come crashing down, and if someone contacts you for help at this time, you may not say it, but you’re thinking “Leave me alone! I can’t deal with this right now!”

Why don’t we just take a few minutes to ponder over Surah al-Asr, the whole thing:

By time,

Indeed, mankind is in loss,

Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience.

Do you want to hear something interesting? The people that I know that engage in Time Management are actually the ones that are also the most reliable when I need to contact them for advice or help. Even though their schedule is packed, they somehow work you in and find a time to help you. May Allah SWT place barakah in our time. Ameen

waAllahu Alam

Wasted Time by Ammar AlShukry

Wasted Time

 

Wasted Time
By Ammar AlShukry

 

Thinking about the time we waste

Holding onto the past a fading face

Afraid to love forward so while you’re waiting wait

For more of your life to pass while you stay in place

There are those that have problems they’re afraid to face

Use drugs and alcohol lay their brain to waste

I need my mind sharp so when I state my case

My venom is bitter so my spray they taste

It’s time to raise the gates

Cuz the people are tired and its way too late

For us to be appeased with a lil taste of cake

Born Muslim so I’ve tasted hate

War and genocide, sisters gave tasted rape

It’s bitterness countered only by the sweet taste of faith

Dreaming dreams of success long days away

So we need a generation that we pray awakes

And when you do we need you to stay awake

Cuz we seen too many an inferno have its blazes fade

In my mind I’m looking forward to amazing days

Where the hypocrites leave and the faithful stay

To take their place in a world where the stakes are raised

History is knocking, will you grace a page?

Paradise is waiting, will you case your place ?

Or will you be one of those who doesn’t know which way to take

Forever pausing and hesitating at the fates he waits

Until time passes him by, finally he fades untraced

Gaining neither of both worlds, a wasted fate..

Oversocializing: Having Too Many Acquaintances

AbdurRahman.org | July 27, 2010 at 5:23 PM | Categories: Character, Seerah | URL: http://wp.me/p1VJ3-kf

Keep Only a Few Friends

Source: ‘Biography of Imam Sufyaan ath-Thawri ‘. this book is sold by dar-us-salaam and the author is “Salaahud-Deen ibn Ali ibn Abdul-Maujood”

Sufyaan Ath-Thawri: A True Mountain of Knowledge & the Leader of Believers in Hadeeth

Sufyaan ath-Thawri (may Allah have mercy on him) said that one foolishly compromised one’s religion when one kept too many friends. Having too many acquaintances diverts one from one’s duty towards one’s Lord, for a person who has many friends is always busy socializing with them and fulfilling their rights over him; so he becomes preoccupied with people when he really should be preoccupied with his religious duties. The ill-effects of being too gregarious can last well beyond a social gathering. Sufyaan said, “I might meet a brother and as a result, remain heedless (of what I should be doing) for an entire month.”

A friend, Sufyaan insisted, should be someone who helps one to improve as a Muslim; otherwise he is not worth keeping as a friend. Sufyaan expressed this sentiment when he sad, “If someone is not with you, then he is against you.”

And Yousuf ibn Asbaat reported that he heard Sufyaan ath-Thawri say, “Whenever I spoke contrary to the desires of any man, he, regardless of who he was, would inevitably become furious with me. The people of knowledge and piety have departed.”

Sufyaan once advised someone to test the character of the person he wanted to befriend. Sufyaan said, “Choose whoever you want as your companion. But when you have made your choice, make him angry, and then order someone to go and ask him what he thinks about you-without him knowing that you sent that person.”

Bakr ibn Muhammad Al-‘Aabid related that Sufyaan ath-Thawri once said to him, “Direct me to a man with whom I can keep company.” Sufyaan said, “You are searching for something that cannot be found.”

Khalf ibn Ismaa’eel Al-Barzaanee reported that he heard Sufyaan ath-Thawri said, “Acquaint yourself with fewer people, and as a result, you will backbite less (frequently).”